How to Overcome Fear
Everyone who has ever started their own business knows about fear. In fact, most successful business owners have an intimate relationship with fear.
The fear associated with starting a business is not irrational like a phobia.
In fact, it is very rational thoughts such as ‘What if I lose all my money’ or ‘What if my family won’t support me’ that can put a stop to the development of even the best business ideas.
Let’s be clear: Fear can be helpful, even necessary. Fear is the mind’s way of telling us that danger — or, at least, a bumpy road — lurks ahead.
But whether justified or not, fear can wreak havoc on the home business owner’s life. It can thwart imagination and choke ambition.
Fear is a part of everyone’s life. But let’s talk about the choice aspect of fear.
It’s simple really. Fear will always be there, poised and ready to wreak havoc, but we can choose whether we’re going to engage with it or not.
We’ve Made Being in Fear a Habit
We’re pumped full of it as children, and then as we grow we continue to take in the bad news on TV and the horror in the papers and the violence in books and films and video games and all this junk that fills us to the brim with fear about our world.
We’re taught to play it safe and not take risks, and to caution everyone around us to follow suit.
And it’s become such an accepted part of our social conditioning that we don’t even realize we’re doing it.
For example, what would your immediate response be to someone you really loved and deeply cared about if they said while sputtering with excitement?
• I’m taking out a gigantic loan to build my dream business.
• Look! I’m quitting my secure full-time job to become an actor.
• I met the most incredible person last week and I’m totally in love. And we’re getting married!
For the most part, when we watch someone take a leap of faith, our first reaction is to scream, “Watch out!” We’ve not only made a habit out of smearing our fear and worry and doubt all over each other, we pat ourselves on the backs for it because we believe it shows how much we care.
The Crab Effect
If you put a bunch of crabs in a bowl and if, while they’re in there crawling all over each other, one of them tries to climb out, the rest of them will try to pull him back down instead of helping to push him out. No wonder they’re called crabs!
Imagine how different our world would be if we were less crab-like.
If we were not only taught to really truly believe in miracles but were rewarded and supported, instead of cautioned and screamed at, for making huge leaps into the unknown.
We give a lot of lip service to the idea that anything is possible, and we all grow up with posters of kittens and baby seals on our walls that say follow your dreams on them, but should you actually do something radical, all the flashing lights and sirens go off.
Fear lives in the future. The feeling of being afraid is real, but the fear itself is all made up because it hasn’t even happened yet – death, going bankrupt, breaking a leg, forgetting our lines, getting yelled at for being late, getting rejected, and on and on…
Most of the time we have no guarantee that what we fear is even going to happen and that if it does, that it’s going to be scary!
What it takes to turn the fear factor around is learning to be comfortable in, instead of terrified of, the unknown. And this is done through faith.
Here are some Helpful Ways to Navigate Through the Jungle of Fear:
View Fear From Your Rear-View Mirror –
Think about some radical thing you did in the past that literally gave you the shakes it was so big and scary.
And now look back on it – how terrifying is it now? Can you conjure up any scary feelings about it?
Keep this in mind as you face each new challenge. No matter how scary your next great leap forward seems at the moment, it will be minuscule when you look back on it someday.
Envision your challenges from the future, look back on them from a place of victory, and they will lose much of their power to paralyze you.
Flip the Fear –
When you find yourself letting fear push you around, look at it from a different perspective.
Start by breaking it down, finding what it is that you’re really afraid of, and then flipping it around to make it work for you, not against you.
Break it down so you can really look at, and defuse, what it is about a situation that’s scaring you.
Fear is all about how you choose to look at things, so by changing your perspective on it you can let the fear of NOT doing the thing you’re scared of fuel your quest for greatness.
Be in the Moment –
Is anything scary happening to you right now at this very moment? Right now, where you’re sitting, is anything bad actually happening, or is it just the thoughts in your head that are freaking you out?
You deplete the much-needed energy you need by freaking out before anything has actually happened. Instead, stay in the moment and connect to your higher self.
If you’re about to walk into a courtroom or jump out of a plane or ask someone to look at your business, breathe into the moment and stay connected to Source Energy.
Keep your frequency high and your belief in miracles strong instead of falling prey to the fears in your mind, and you’ll find that not only are you much better equipped to deal with whatever situation it is that you’re headed for, but that, nine times out of ten, it’s much scarier in your mind than it is in reality.
Cut off the Stream of Garbage –
Be more conscious of the information you absorb.
What blogs do you read? Which shows do you watch? What books do you read? Which stories do you read in the paper? How do you choose movies to go to? What do you focus on in your day-to-day life?
This isn’t about being in denial or out of touch with what’s going on in the world; it’s about how much of this information you really need.
Are you staring at a car accident or are you gathering information that will allow you to contribute to positive change?
The only real way to overcome your fears about becoming a small business owner is to address them, realize them for what they are, and then adopt practical steps towards overcoming them.
The more you work at it, the more you’ll see that fear really is a choice, and the better you’ll get at not engaging with it.
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By Lynn Huber
p.s. The more you work at it, the more you’ll see that fear really is a choice, and the better you’ll get at not engaging with it.
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